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My suggestions - living with

an eating disorder

 


 

  • First of all and most importantly, always remember you are not alone! It may not feel like it sometimes but there are always others in similar situations who can understand what you are going through.

 

  • Ask for help. I know this seems terrifying but there are people waiting to help you. First thing I would say is to see your GP. If you think you will struggle to tell them what is going on, write it down and give it to them. They will do their best to help you and make you feel at ease.

 

  • Out-patient support. If you are referred to the eating disorder outpatient team - usually in New Craigs, Inverness - don’t be scared. The team are all lovely and will do their best to help you.

 

  • Wanting the help. One thing I’ve learnt over the years is that you have to want to change for any of the support to work! The outpatient team can do everything to help you but ultimately you have to want it. Determination is key.

 

  • Be open and honest. Trust me I understand how difficult this is! When I was in the grips of my eating disorder I tried to hide everything from everyone, and was so snappy to my loved ones when they asked me any questions. Honestly, this just made things worse and got me deeper and deeper into a cycle of lies. Be as open and honest as you can. People are not going to be angry or disappointed if you are struggling.  They will be happy you have recognised that you need help.

  • Have a daily routine. This was crucial in my recovery as it gave me structure to each day. I usually did this the night before, writing down a timetable of what I would do throughout the day. This will give you a routine which can be crucial to keeping you busy, which  equals less time to ruminate about everything! 

  • Bad days. Truthfully you will have your good days and bad days. If you are having a bad day my suggestion is to accept any mistakes you have made and move on, do not dwell on them because  it can make things worse. If for example you have missed breakfast, stay in the moment – accept the mistake and try to carry on with the routine you have originally planned. Never feel guilty, just keep trying your best.

  • Inpatient treatment. I understand how scary being an inpatient  can be but just stay strong, stay in the moment and utilise all the support that is offered. This is your chance to get better and have a better life … grab it with both hands! 

  • REMEMBER. There is a life waiting out there for you, eating disorder free. Do not allow this eating disorder to rob you of any more of your life. Never ever lose hope, believe you deserve to get better, take each day as it comes and love your body … in the end you only get one!

My suggestions - supporting

someone with an eating disorder

 


 

  • Always remember an eating disorder is an illness that may need professional help. Just try your best to be there for them. Give them a call, text, or go and see them.  This made a world of difference in my journey as I still knew there were people there for me who weren’t distancing themselves. 

  • Be there to listen to the person. If they trust you they may find the courage to open up to you which can be crucial in the journey as they need to express their fears or problems.

 

  • Ask them to seek help, whether this is through the GP, a school nurse or an adult they trust. Understand that this is a huge and daunting task to be asking so prepare yourself for a snappy reply! Also, offer to go to any appointments they may have. Having this support at a scary time can mean so much.

 

  • Be open! You want the sufferer to be open to you so you have to be open with them as well. Don’t be frightened to explain your worries to them; in the end this could be the prompt they need themselves to open up to you!

 

  • Always be positive! Positivity can be infectious. Smile, laugh and socialise with them!

 

  • Always be there for them. This is the last suggestion I can give you, and an important one for me; every day tell the sufferer you will always be there for them and you are proud of them. These were the quotes that kept me going through my battle and still keep me going today!